1. Put yourself into a dating mindset.
When building your profile and looking for potential dates, your mindset should follow what you’d like the outcome to be. Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship, a hookup, or something in between, that mindset will help drive your actions.
2. Send a message with a compliment.
It’s always nice to start off a conversation with a compliment. But don’t give a generic compliment like “You have pretty eyes.” You need to be specific and compliment something that you can relate to. For example, “I like your profile picture because it looks like you’re having fun at the beach. I have a favorite beach that I love to visit, and I’m sure you’ll love it too.” This will help you both relate to each other and the conversation will flow a lot better.
3. Don’t waste time.
If you say something in your profile that you want to be a must-have in your potential mate, don’t waste time. For example, if you don’t want someone who isn’t interested in kids, don’t wait until you meet in person to ask if they want kids. If you’re looking for someone who is willing to relocate for a job, don’t wait until your first date to find out if they’re willing to move.
4. Don’t go overboard with compliments.
If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, it’s important to be careful and not go overboard with compliments. If you’re looking for a hookup, you don’t want to give too many compliments either because you risk sounding like you’re trying too hard.
5. Say what you’re looking for.
If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, it’s important to clearly say so in your profile. If you’re looking for a hookup, it’s important to say so in your profile. Having this information in your profile will help others know whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship or if you’re looking for something more casual.
6. Be upfront about your intentions.
If you’re looking for a hookup, say so! Don’t waste your time with someone who’s looking for a serious relationship if you’re only looking for someone casual.
7. Send a message to everyone.
If you see someone you like, send them a message. If you don’t get a response, move on to the next profile.
8. Don’t be afraid to say no.
If you don’t want to meet someone, just say so. Don’t lead someone on if you don’t want to meet them, and don’t waste their time.
9. Be proactive.
Don’t just sit around and wait for things to come to you. If you really want to find someone, put yourself out there. This will help you find someone who’s truly interested in you, and it will also make you look less desperate.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is really important in a relationship. Don’t lead someone on if you don’t want to meet them, and don’t waste their time. If you want to meet someone, say so. If you don’t, just say no.